Redemption Coaching-U.L.M-#196

Just because something is right it does not make it right, before we dress up in self righteousness we should
Look in the mirror
Put ourselves in the others shoes as them not us
Be aware of
circumstances in general
mitigating circumstances
timeline
timing
a persons mood , mindset and intention
exactly who we are talking to( the good they have done ,what they mean to us etc)
the whole picture,all sides, context
Put in Perspective
Consider their sensitivities and needs
Learn to be ,depending on the situation,
forgiving
understanding( which does not mean agreement)
identifying ,connecting( which does not mean justifying)
Acknowledge
a persons point no matter what you think of it
the dilemmas, frustrations etc
any effort etc that was put in
describe a situation dont evaluate or judge, leave that to G-D be solution focused( any others issues can be dealt with at a more opportune time)
Learn to listen with interest care and a desire to hear
Learn to Validate

all the above should be dressed in respect as the eternal value a person , created by G-D unique just like you and is always worth a lot more than the letter of the law( yes for the nit pickers there are exceptions like with everything)