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There are seven main ways to change how you feel about____

1.Be open to change

2.Desire to change

3.change how you think about_____

4.change your actions

5. change your what you tell your self about____

6.change how you speak in general about_____

7.Keep Reevaluating and Persist with one or all of the above and you will change how you feel about____

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The problem is not that we are sometimes in a negative state of mind,it happens, it is when we extend our stay that we create the enduring issue

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When you find a why more important than your pain,more important than your strain then you will transcend to a level of gain that will bear fruit again and again

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We are all journeying to oneness, The Oneness that is G-d but we are all doing it differently , in different ways, through different eyes, experiences, pace, progress etc

If we cannot handle differences between people that means we think that we are G-d and all should be as we are.
Accepting differences does not in any way meaning agreeing with or justifying aberrant of abhorrent behavior, views etc.
What it means is that we are starting to understand that G-d has a plan for every single person, tailor made for them ,and they have to go and progress in their unique way , however long it takes and whatever price they may have to pay.
If G-d was not okay with that, that person, those people ,would have been created differently.
All we can do is be there for those that need it, offer what we can to those who will hear and constantly learn from everyone around us.

All life that exists has some godliness within otherwise it would not exist and that soul, level of soul is constantly trying to journey higher and every soul has a different garment( body) and so all journeys are different.

When you love differences you love G-d as you are letting the level of godliness in everyone and everything journey higher , however G-d decides that should be.

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when you learn to forgive you understand that life is for..giving on all levels

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Only Hashem is and we are only because Hashem is

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When you digest that you have been born a winner(loser is a mindset) no matter what happens you are always undefeatable

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Masterchef Mussar
In the third Season there was a a guy named Adam,a great cook,who was with three other contestants up for elimination from the competition
When they were about to be judged Adam heard all the other cooks express their deep seated passion for cooking and what it meant to them .It suddenly dawned on him that while he loves cooking he was honest with himself to admit that his passion for cooking did not match that of the other cooks and without knowing the judges decision he decided to leave the competition so as not to take someone else's dream away
When the judges revealed their decision Adam found out that he would not have been eliminated but he did not regret his decision.
The greatness of a person is found in their ability to care about more than themselves ,how and when they do it, and then they become so much more

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When you focus on being thankful you have no time to be resentful

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One way that gratitude can positively change any relationship is that it helps you realize that it is not all about you .

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When you choose to work on seeing every second of life as a gift,every minute as a blessing,every hour a miracle then you have opened your eyes to a new world of passion,excitement,joy ,growth..etc where gratitude is the new gravity and suddenly the majestic exposes the mundane as the illusion it always was.

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Gratitude Ritual
Take one day a week or even some time every day where you decide you are not going to correct your spouse, children etc,you are not going to criticize them ,preach to them,"teach" them any type of lesson etc.What you are going to do is let them be themselves as they are now,as G-D has let them be at this very moment. Experience  them ,enjoy them , love them,let them express themselves for who they are and exactly as they are right now. Be totally present in the privilege of being around them ,let them flourish and shine.

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Before making a Bracha(Blessing) consider:
Take an apple for example and before eating it stop and even just before the blessing you make prior to eating it consider that for that Apple to get to your hand G-D brought the whole world to bear.In other words the rain , the sun,the appropriate soil,the seeds, the tree , the ripening at the right time,the picking , the packing, the cleaning , the wholesaling, the retailing etc.

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The life we want , the person we are and want to be is expressed in our rituals and habits when they change eventually so will we.Our lives are too important to lock them up in our comfort zones.We are granted life by the Creator and Maintainer of all that was is or ever will be,"Who" thought that we were worth creating and that we are always worth the effort.

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Facing Your negative and destructive urges

Many suggest a myriad of options and strategies,one of them being engage the urge and rebut it
If that does not work for you I would like to suggest that when an urge attacks and we fight it many a time we give in or we cause ourselves anguish , frustration etc so therefore let it come, don't fight it but at the same
DO NOT:
ENGAGE IT,ENTERTAIN IT,EMBRACE IT OR ENERGIZE IT
as i it only has the strength we give it, let it play out like a movie reel every single time it attacks no matter how harsh
While it is attacking and you are not fighting it but also not engaging it just keep focusing on a powerful affirmation, verse or statement that you connect to and eventually it will pass

Three of my Affirmations are:
I give Malchut(authority, kingship) to " You" Hashem and not the urge
I am a soulboss my soul is has dominion over my body

I will(b.n.) not barter my or my family's Eternity for any fleeting gratification and/or distraction

You may fall but always get back up knowing your life means something and that you never fall too far that you are beyond G-d's reach and that you are always worth the fight

G-d loves you and is aware of your inner wars but in these wars surrender is never an option

G-d gifted you with life and so much more, the way you choose to live your life can be your gift to G-d

Keep going, stay vigilant, stand strong and then one day you will find when G-d deems it opportune that the urge has been transformed into a Divine surge and you are stronger and wiser for it

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When you tear people down you are billiboarding to the world that you have not built yourself up

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When we feel that people have to be like me or agree with me that literally means there is nothing more than me.

When we feel this way we block ourselves off from growth ,learning etc we limit ourselves and place" limits on G-d( G-d forbid)

The abomination of G-d is the arrogant"(Mishle/Proverbs) because those that see no more than themselves make no place for G-d

Make space for others..be self...less and you will learn , grow and become so much more

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Exercise suggestion

Every time you automatically think of a reason why you cannot do something( which you are honest enough to admit to yourself is an excuse)
Force yourself to to find 5 reasons why you can do it and and write them down

Eventually after doing this exercise a while you will find that you are "CAN"ditioning yourself to transcend what you think you cannot do and give yourself options and possibilities for success.

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"Behold, I set before you today a blessing and a curse." Devarim 11:26
We are not prisoners of yesterday ,with each new day G-d gives us hope in that,among others we can make new and better choices, buy we have to make responsible choices for if we have not chosen well we have chosen badly

Each new day is an opportunity through total emancipation from the past to be fully present in the NOW and make the choices that will allow us to see the Wow.

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People complain about the fact that there is just so much to do living a Torah life ,the mitzvot break down into thousands of halachot etc , covering literally every area of life.
Well this is an endless topic but let me give you a paradigm shift:
All this "extra" that we as Jews should be doing takes a life that is ordinary and makes it extra..ordinary.
So do not be put off by this seemingly extra, as it is exactly this extra that will open you up to slowly realizing how extraordinary you are and the life you lead can be

Living the Torah life is walking the road of champions, the extra mile, being willing to soar past the limits of your body which as dressing for your soul goes from being simply corporeal to the unlimited state exposing you to what is eternally real.

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Don't make excuses for who you are not,look for the beauty and strengths in who you are- G-d does not make mistakes

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G-d only makes winners the only true loss is when we defeat ourselves through our self imposed limited vision of who we truly are and can be.
The more you learn the more you will see

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G-d wants a real relationship with you for you. Any good relationship needs good communication..be in constant conversation with G-d

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Be humble enough to realize that whatever you think you know you really have no idea how truly precious life is
G-d does and knows you are worthy of the gift
Let go of what holds you back ..go foward in gratitude,joy,authenticity,inspiration
Letting nothing and noone get you down because you know it is G-d that pushes you up

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Being a people pleaser is the best way to live your life as noone else as who you are is determined by whom you please.
There is a reason G-d created you, to be you..Live Authentically

You can always take it higher- you have G-d within you

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Gold medals aren’t really made of gold. They’re made of sweat, determination and a hard-to-find alloy called guts.”
— Dan Gable

“Without self-discipline success is impossible, period.”
— Lou Holtz

You are never lost until you quit trying- Mike Ditka

“Never give up! Failure and rejection are the only first step to succeeding.”
— Jim Valvano

“The key is not the will to win… everybody has that. It is the will to prepare to win that is important.”
— Bobby Knight
The will to win is important, but the will to prepare is vital- Joe Paterno

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Bring Hashem into your conversation and experience some Heaven on Earth
For Example:
Instead of:
"Oh.. Wow what a great day I had!!!!"
Rather:

Oh Wow ..what a great day Hashem blessed me with!!!
or

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There is no winning and losing...G-d only makes winners..there is winning and learning, growing.

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When you learn how to get angry with your yetser hara you will boost your yetser tov

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Our voice box is a gift box which houses one of Hashem's greatest gifts to us, the gift of speech
By way of Hashem "breathing" life in to us we became a ruach memalela( a speaking spirit) how we use this gift is evidence of who has dominion in our lives our souls or our bodies and going from limits to limit..less

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It is never what is but how YOU choose to see what is.
YOU never see the world or people as it is or as they are but rather as YOU are at any given time.

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Pay attention to people's" reach out" language otherwise you may miss out on opportunities to build bridges and preserve relationships

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Always pick yourself up no matter how much you weigh as if you keep your heart open,for G-d you will always be lighter than air

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The Butterfly Effect
You are the butterfly, flap your wings, you have no idea what you are bringing to the world ,what changes you are making in so many ways..G-d does.
With Bitachon and Emuna your wings will keep on moving and YOU will change the world

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Ask an Olympic Gold Medalist who wins a race by 1 second, what that second meant for him/her and how it changed his/her life

One second can when you least expect it save and/or change your life.
For many the clock has stopped ticking ,get out of your own way and embrace the privilege, the gift of each beautiful second of life with the best that you can give.

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Exercise suggestion

From the moment you read this post take a pen and write down the words "I CAN"

Take that note with you wherever you go and for the next week every ten minutes look at the note and say " I CAN" wholeheartedly 10 times and mean it as no matter the odds if G-d wants you to do it you will.

Ignore any negative thoughts of "I can't " as our thoughts ONLY have the power we give them. Don't fight them just let them play out like a movie,let them dissipate like a mirage while you constantly repeat " I CAN"

Do this every day for a week and then reevaluate how you feel, honestly.

The words we tell ourselves, ripple eventually into every area of our lives and directly impact our actions, the way we feel etc

I like to call this and similar exercises "Can"ditioning ..rewiring your mind to what you can do for only that will get you past what you once thought you could not do.

Adhere to this exercise strictly and once you feel the benefit do it for another week and carry on until the positive change ripples into every area of your life.

Put the effort in...G-d knows you are worth the effort ..so should you...You are never too far gone to go far.

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You will be a more consistent peak performer when you choose to see obstacles and challenges as on the way and not in the way

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"...let not the wise man glory in his wisdom...." Jeremiah 9:22
He/she that glories in their wisdom..sees it as their own and seeks no further than what they think they know.
He/she that recognizes their wisdom as a gift from G-D seeks unrelentingly with a thirst and passion for the endless options , possibilities that abound in the Divine cornucopia of Eternity ..becoming self..less but so much more ..find a fullness of life denied those where arrogance is rife.

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Why was the Torah given on the small insignificant Mt Sinai?
Some say to teach us humility,then others respond if so why was the Torah not given in a valley?
One response brought is that , be humble,yes,but not so low that you can be trampled on
I would like to add that ,yes, humility does not mean you are a doormat but that all you have,will have,can be etc is from G-d which in truth is that although we are constantly going for the peak our mountain is low but we,with G-d have no cap on how high we can go
To resign ourselves to average,to the musings of mediocrity is to be captivated by our comfort zones and to (G-d forbid) give up on G-d to( G-d forbid) limit G-d
Leave the cult of complacency....the mindset of mediocrity...as those who treat the gift of their lives casually risk becoming or remaining a casualty of life
Go for the higher ground with your higher self reclaiming your spot on the winners podium as G-d only makes winners..we create losers in our minds
You are never too far gone to go far
You can always take it higher...you have G-d within you.

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"Speak to the entire congregation of the children of Israel, and say to them, You shall be holy, for I, the Lord, your G-d, am holy.- Vayikra 19:2"

In my opinion this is one of the greatest positive peak performance verses.G-d is telling us here that G-d is holy... really..Wow that is news, who would have thought?
Obviously G-d is holy so a possible message here could be that do not compare yourself to anyone only G-d..G-d is holy, your only point of comparison and therefore
If G-d is in your heart and in your life..you will never ever stop growing, achieving, making the supposedly impossible your new normal and why?..because you are part of G-d(soul) but you will never be G-d... yet we have to strive to get closer to G-d and so complacency is not in your lexicon and where others get stuck you are charging forward soaring higher and higher in any area of your life that you so choose to let G-d in.

Learn about this, digest it, live it..and kick start your life to a new level of miracle class..no matter your circumstances or age.

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Ein Od Milvado(There is nothing but G-d)
In other words there is nothing standing in your way, pour your greatness ,your maximum into each moment, don't stop and you will be unstoppable.
G-d wants you to succeed, to achieve and knows you better than you know you..so you put in the effort and let G-d decide when where, how etc you will succeed
Never give up keep looking up

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"You shall choose life, so that you and your offspring will live;"Devarim 30:19

"And God saw all that He had made, and behold it was very good, and it was evening and it was morning, the sixth day." Bereishit 1:31

The only way to live fully is to choose life even though we have already been given life for when you do not make it your own, give it your all, no matter your circumstances, in all encompassing gratitude for this majestically awesome gift of life ...are you truly living?

When G-d created man,G-d did not say it was ok, or good but very good , there is no greater approval and validation for you and your life.G-d created you ,you have something to offer that the world needs, push yourself..grab onto life and go from surviving to thriving

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Peak Moment
When you finally get to that point where you achieved,reached something no matter how small that you previously thought or were told you could not you have reached a peak moment and that spurs you on to the next one.
As long as you are going for peak moments your P.P.P.(Peak Power Potential) will increase and you will encounter life at home ,at work in general on a totally new even more fulfilling level.
Staying logged in to G-D your peaks are infinite and you will continue your growth well into your eternity

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What you settle for is all you will ever get,the extent of your vision, the height of your love,the distance of your sight,the zenith of your passion,the ceiling of your growth,the deadend of your options,the momentum of your drive,the final countdown of new achievements,the everest of your performance,the peak of your excitement etc and you become within reach of complacency,accept handouts from your comfort zone,embrace resignation, get used to routine, numb yourself with boredom......DON'T SETTLE for anything, login to the awesomeness of eternity, the majesty of infinity,the availability of miracles,the reality that is G-d and find the world eager for the best version of you, excited to behold the daily unwrapping of the gift that is the incredible potential G-d has instilled within you. So don't settle for anything, unlimit yourself into G-d's Divine embrace and the sky will never be your limit but merely the ground you walk on

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A Working Definition
With the unlimiting connection to G-d that is your soul ,your positive performance potential in every area of your life is unlimited and you will always be pursuing the peak because that means you are always on the move ,falling,getting up,growing ,moving up,feeling empowered, being the best YOU and living a constantly improving quality of life at home ,at work and in general.

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Don't empower the black holes in your universe
A black hole is a a region of space having a gravitational field so intense that no matter or radiation can escape.
In others words no matter how much light ,beauty and awesome majesty may be around you when you are in a black hole it is all sucked in as if it meant nothing.

However depressed, sad,down you may be and how right you may feel you are to be sad know that you are sucking the light and the possibility of light right out of your life and creating your tunnel with no light at the end.

So if you are sad , down etc don't let it ensue for too long as you have too much light within you to give and thus much light to behold.

You are worth the effort..G-d knows it..so should you

You are never too far gone to go far