Tuesday, November 29, 2016

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L.O.V.E.
Know what to 
L.et go
O.verlook
V.alue
E.mbrace
Come from a place of love and then you will learn to L.O.V.E.

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Every time you meet a person you are meeting a snapshot not the whole journey so with understanding avoiding judgement and assumptions be a lighthouse that helps them avoid the rocks and which may give you a bigger picture

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Bob is telling us what we are already knew since time immemorial and constantly teach/learn that the Guf(body) is the Levush(the ,covering,clothes) of the Neshama(soul) and so our potential is limitless- Ein Od Milvado

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What is the miracle in all the darkness?
Those who insist on lighting a candle

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Please dont be normal......leave a clear path to your unique authenticity

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You never lose time when you use time ......positively,effectively, wisely etc

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Your Daily Mussar Diet:
When anger comes dont waste energy fighting it let it come but dont it engage carry on walking on the other side of the street focusing what you are grateful, what and /or whom you love.

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When you hold a grudge in that area it is your life that does not budge

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Your Daily Mussar Diet:
Today ,no matter what, forego excuses and see what the day brings and what you can do.

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When you learn to love people your love for G-d truly grows for you are connecting to the godly within them reflecting the godly within you.
Then even when very difficult choices have to be made about people, how to react etc in challenging situations are still carried out but never pull us into the darkness that others may be in.

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Just C.H.I.L.L.
C.alm down
H.old on to Hope and Happiness
I.nteract with the beauty that surrounds you
L.et go of the ego based nonsense
L.ove yourself ..we all make mistakes and have inner wars

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See unconditionally the good,the great,the wonderful,the potential in actuality and possibility in people and relate to them as if that is all you see.
You are not necessarily agreeing with them but you are also not dismissing them you are giving hope showing that mistakes need not be an ending but rather herald a powerful new beginning

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When you allow yourself to be conditioned by tradition( in business, work ,socially, privately etc) without thinking you land up living in omission and miss out on finding and feeling your life's mission

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Choose Life - Act F.O.R. life
Three keys to a fulfilling,unlimiting life
Fluid
keep things moving don't let the siren's song of your comfort zone pull you back into regression..always look with gratitude to take it higher, better, further.
Open
Never lock yourself into what has to be, stay open always to what can be.Seeing challenges etc as on the way and not in the way
Reevaluate
When you reevaluate with brutal honesty you will always give yourself the opportunity to choose to know where you are, what you need to change,add ,where you need to invest more etc

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Facing Your negative and destructive urges
Many suggest a myriad of options and strategies,one of them being engage the urge and rebut it
If that does not work for you I would like to suggest that when an urge attacks and we fight it many a time we give in or we cause ourselves anguish , frustration etc so therefore let it come, don't fight it but at the same
DO NOT:
ENGAGE IT,ENTERTAIN IT,EMBRACE IT OR ENERGIZE IT
as i it only has the strength we give it, let it play out like a movie reel every single time it attacks no matter how harsh
While it is attacking and you are not fighting it but also not engaging it just keep focusing on a powerful affirmation, verse or statement that you connect to and eventually it will pass
Three of my Affirmations are:
I give Malchut(authority, kingship) to " You" Hashem and not the urge
I am a soulboss my soul is has dominion over my body
I will(b.n.) not barter my or my family's Eternity for any fleeting gratification and/or distraction
You may fall but always get back up knowing your life means something and that you never fall too far that you are beyond G-d's reach and that you are always worth the fight
G-d loves you and is aware of your inner wars but in these wars surrender is never an option
G-d gifted you with life and so much more, the way you choose to live your life can be your gift to G-d
Keep going, stay vigilant, stand strong and then one day you will find when G-d deems it opportune that the urge has been transformed into a Divine surge and you are stronger and wiser for it

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hange is an integral necessity of life,of growth,of success
Here are 10 habits of Change friendly People
1.Be clear on why the change is necessary
.When you know why it is necessary you can find the necessary motivation
2. Make it a Priority 
.If you make it a priority in your life it has more of a chance of taking root and having the desired impact on your life
3.Willingness to Jump out of your Boxes
Change cannot be if you allow your comfort zones to imprison you.Once you learn to exit your comfort zones,jump out of your boxes you will meet ,life,change on a new level
4. Be clear on the duration
Understanding whether or not the change is permanent,limited or even if the duration is unknown will help you put it more into perspective
5.Learn to ask for help,advice,guidance
.At times we are stuck and asking for guidance from the right people does not mean we have to agree, it just means that we increase our chances of getting unstuck and moving forward
6.Sharing the change with those that matter
Depending on the change needed it can impact many of the people in our lives and even if some disagree with you when you share your reasons you give yourself a real chance at preserving those relationships that might be at risk and enhancing those that are supportive
7.Consistent Reevaluation
Consistent honest reevaluation measures our success,helps us consider other options when needed,helps us correct mistakes etc and basically keep us on the path we need to effect the change or if necessary to change direction
8. Ambitious Patience
Anything worthwhile takes time especially change and this is compounded if we have been used to doing something for many years and now need to change.Patience gives us a chance,allows us not to be negatively hasty and facilitates lasting success.The ambition keeps us resilient ,energized, focused and avoids complacency
9 . Make your self talk change friendly
We all talk to ourselves ,whether verbally or non verbally via words thoughts etc.When our self talk becomes change friendly we are in essence programming ourselves for success
10.G-d is with you
G-d never puts you in a situation wherein you cannot find the strength and ability to face and deal with something.So bypass the chatter of your mind connect to your soul and know that G-d is with you every step of the way believes in you,loves you and with G-D you have your best chance at success no matter the odds

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http://www.quickanddirtytips.com/health-fitness/mental-health/the-two-big-beliefs-linked-to-depression

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Some critical coaching keys to helping a person get in touch with and release their authenticity are
Acknowledge them ,what they say feel etc
Listen with a desire to understand and not to give answers
Empty the conversation of anything you,make it all about them
Dont give advice ,solutions etc let the person dig deep as G-d has given us all we need to become all we can(use open ended questions)
Praise honestly every bit of progress,effort etc no matter how small
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Perhaps the most important of all,which also affects all the above points,do not judge ,release your need to judge as it is not about you

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"ANY idea that is held in the mind, that is emphasized, that is either feared or revered, will begin at once to cloth itself in the most convenient and appropriate form available." 
-Andrew Carnegie

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When you "kill" time you are killing who you could be .
Time is a golden bucket waiting to be filled by the best you can muster at any given time.
Never be off duty , you and your life are too precious, no matter your age or circumstance.

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Masterchef Mussar
I was watching an episode of Masterchef Australia where a contestant said that they were so happy that they could take a dish that was already good to the next level and improve it.
That got me thinking, even if we are happy and fulfilled we can always to take it higher , do better , give more, increase quality,bring more goodness into the world and indeed our greatest gift to G-d could very well be never ever settling but no matter our life always taking it higher, shattering limits,breaching the impossible , shining a brighter light
Yesterday's Greatness Is Today's Ordinary As A New Is A New Life To Be Lived
Stagnation is a Myth but Momentum Leads to Legendary

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When you are engaging in discourse you are always getting the other's perspective ,there are always other perspectives.
So always stay open to a bigger,maybe different picture and know that there is also more than you perspective.

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Are you your harshest critic?
If so ...how about becoming your greatest fan pushing yourself to be all that G-d knows you can be so that you can find some joy in what you achieve because you allowed yourself to believe.

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https://dev.tonyrobbins.com/the-6-human-needs-why-we-do-what-we-do/

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Listening-the make or break skill 
L.earn to enter someone elses world,suspend judgement,put ego on hold
I.ntend to understand not to solve.Reflect emotions and facts as expressed by the speaker.
S.ilent...let people express themselves
T.ake your world out in order to hear the other clearly. without judgement
E.ngage yourself fully,be fully present
N.ever ignore the impact of what is being said on you so that you can maintain focus

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When I wake up, gifted by Hashem with a new day after Modeh Ani my B.I.O. for the day is Bring It On

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When you learn and accept that G-d has the stopwatch and not you , you may just be blessed to, with patience ,watch the most miraculous and providential of things unfold

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Sunday, November 13, 2016

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Mussar From Coaching
I must have learnt around 1000 different powerful coaching questions covering so many different situations
Yet sometimes I am in a coaching a session and I draw a blank..at a total..loss.
It is as if Hashem is telling me....yes,put your best effort always...but know that it is always Me..never you..I am always with you ..so anything and everything is possible and then the question comes

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HERE IS ONE THING TO ALWAYS REMAIN ANGRY WITH:
Your Yetser Hara
Your anger will keep you on guard

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A Life Changing Equation
(Thoughts+Actions=Feelings+Physiology)<=Ripple Effect
When you change either how you think and/or your actions your feelings will change and in many case also how your body feels.
When you stay in a certain negative,challenging pattern of thoughts and or actions long enough it will eventually ripple into your body and other areas of your life
When you understand and work at applying this equation you will change your life- for example
Stress is nothing more than a choice, conscious or subconscious to think about a certain person, experience etc in a specific way.
Find a more effective way of thinking and you will event

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You are never too far gone to go far
Redemption according to one definition is the act of making something better or more acceptable and only G-D can maintain perfection so if we want to make the best of life, the best of our relationships,to offer the world the best version of ourselves we should always be looking for redemption.
The interesting thing about the wholehearted pursuit of redemption in every area of our lives is when we let that positive passion into our hearts it resonates outwards ,becomes contagious impacting others , changing our lives ,changing the world and elevating you to world class...no.. to miracle class and you find yourself not as a casualty of your circumstances but rather as a champion of your circumstances pouring your unique G-D given greatness into this world-

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Finding Your Mental Mojo:
Do not ever choose a permanent solution for a temporary problem-Les Brown

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Finding Your Mental Mojo:
Ein Od Milvado( There is nothing but G-d) is probably the greatest secret to harnessing your mental mojo because when you truly live it , when it lives in your heart and ripples to and through every area of your life then NOTHING can stop the true , free authentic you from shining through as the the true you is the eternal you , your totally unique part of G-d , your soul, your part of the Master making you a Masterpiece
FIGHT FOR YOU BELIEVE IN YOU ..G-D DOES!!!!!!

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Finding Your Mental Mojo:
Your mental Mojo resonates when you connect to what is authentically you

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Finding Your Mental Mojo:
When your locus of control is what people think of you then your mental muscles do not exercise but wait for others to do the circuit .

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http://www.proctorgallagherinstitute.com/11126/how-to-override-paradigms-and-achieve-your-goals

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Dr John Demartini
s. If you don’t clearly define, plan and pursue your highest aspirations in your career you will keep being positioned in low priority positions that are unfulfilling.

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There is no such thing as I can't there is only what you are not willing to consider,to be open to,to do

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Many say fight your negative urges, fight your bad thoughts
Let me suggest
that the energy expended in doing that can be draining.
Your peace of mind becomes elusive
You succumb to fear,anxiety , frustration etc when you contemplate and dwell on these terrible thoughts etc
Do maybe something different
Let the urges and bad thoughts come, freely,let them flow
BUT
Now here is where you put some effort in which will eventually become easier
DO NOT IN ANY WAY ENGAGE YOUR NEGATIVE THOUGHTS AND URGES
thoughts and urges are illusions empowered by the credibility YOU give them.
When you disempower them you empower yourself
They will attack relentlessly but stand strong , DO NOT ENGAGE THEM let them play out like a bad movie while you focus on something positive, a happy memory,a great feeling or experience.
Practice this until it is part of you and find joy in the clarity that follows and the peace of mind that ensues

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Remember – what you visualize – you ACTUALIZE.- Bob Proctor
I would add BeChasdei Hashem

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We should always remember that what we perceive as a no from G-d is not a rejection but rather a redirection to inspire reflection-inspired by Cheryl Mavrikos

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Noticing Hashem's hugs
Interestingly Hashem let me see today personally that if you stay open to it you will see and feel Hashem's hugs and loving care even during challenges
Yes it can be tremendously hard depending on your attitude and the challenge you find yourself in
SO
Practice never closing in on yourself,staying open, allowing yourself to see and feel the light that is Hashem's love then darkness might at times hurt you but will never prevail.

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Rejection is nothing more than an extended stay in the realm of better possibilities

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Stress can shut down your power if you let it. Do not allow people, bills, or pressures on the job to consume your focus, energy and joy for life. Uncontrolled stress can cause you to gain weight; change your personality and create problems in your relationships; turn your hair gray overnight; make you sick, and make it difficult for you to get out of bed.
Take time to become aware of the major stressors in your life and the ways you are dealing with them. Recognize the price you are paying for not taking deliberate action with regard to your spiritual, social, emotional and physical well-being. In the face of what may appear to be crippling circumstances, choose to live every part of your life. Decide to be happy, actively engaged and live from the inside out. Create centered and grounding moments in your own life as part of your spiritual life.
Use what works – exercise, meditation, meaningful connections with others. Volunteer your time to make a difference in the lives of others. You are more powerful than you are currently living. Harness your power to live above the stress in your life.-Les Brown

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Turn to Hashem
Talk to Hashem
Trust Hashem
Thank Hashem
Living your B.E.S.T. life (Bitachon.Emuna.Simcha.Toda)

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 I changed one word to Barry White's famous song "You're The First, The Last, My Everything"and it expresses beauitfully our love for Hashem
My first, my last, my everything
And the answer to all my dreams
You're my sun, my moon, my guiding star
My kind of wonderful, that's what you are
I know there's only, only one like you
There's no way they could have made two
You're all I'm living for, your love I'll keep forevermore
First, you're the last, my everything
In you I've found so many things
A love so new, only you could bring
Can't you see it's you? You make me feel this way
You're like a first morning dew on a brand new day
I see so many ways that I can love you 'til the day I die
You're my reality, yet I'm lost in a dream
You're the first, the last, my everything
I know there's only, only one like you
There's no way they could have made two
G-d, you're my reality, but I'm lost in a dream
You're the first, you're the last, my everything

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The Chorus of Air Supply's famous song :Even the nights are better
expresses so beautifully finding Hashem as there is no love like Hashem's love for each and every one of us
Even the nights are better
Now that we're here together
Even the nights are better
Since I found You, oh
Even the days are brighter
When Someone you loves beside You
Even the nights are better
Since I found You

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"Keep The Fire(Emuna) Burnin'" by REO Speedwagon
not the intention of REO Speedwagon but this is a song of Emuna if we look at the words a little differently
Keep the fire burnin'
Let it keep us warm
The world will keep on turnin'
Let it turn you on
Let us not stop learnin'
We can help one another be strong
Let us never lose our yearnin'
To keep the fire burnin' all night long
You've been changing so much
I'm not sure your in touch with what's real
You just come and you go
Never letting me know how you feel
And I'm livin here in doubt
There's so much to talk about
I know that we can work it out
[Chorus]
We've been through this enough
It gets rough but there's nowhere to run
This is where we belong
We are strong, we can never give up
If we wanted to we could
But we've always understood
To keep lookin' for the good

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Emuna keeps the fires burning no matter how strong the winds may be

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Constantly Raising Your B.A.R.R.
You are never not good enough, your actions at times may leave a lot to be desired but they are a result of your choices.
Your goodness, your value is always there, noone can change it in anyway and neither can you as it was given to you by G-d
What you need to do is to start to
B.elieve then you will A.chieve then you will R.etrieve and have finally opened yourself up to R.eceive

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Celebrate yourself and become more comfortable expressing your truth and your feelings about what matters to you. Living is risky business. There is always the possibility of hurt and rejection. In order to experience love, you will risk being hurt. In order to find success, you will risk failure.
Playing safe is not an option if you want to experience the best that life has to offer. Starve your fears. Decide to live beyond anxiety and doubt. Make what you want greater than what you fear.
-Les Brown

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You are too value..able to live a life devoid of meaningful value

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Powerful Babe Ruth Quotes
“Every strike brings me closer to the next home run.”
“It's hard to beat a person who never gives up.”
".. I hit big or I miss big. I like to live as big as I can.”

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Don't beat yourself up
.keep yourself up.

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Awesomely packaged by Dr DeMartini..in the Torah since before Creation.
Dr John Demartini
spiring to you, you will be more self-governed in your behaviour and you will have less volatility. When you're doing something that's high on your value list, you tend to increase the probability of accomplishment. And when you accomplish things, you tend to set bigger goals over longer periods of time. When you do, your time horizons grow, your goals get bigger and you have more meaning to go after them and you're willing to embrace pain and pleasure in pursuit of them.

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How many positive ,effective ways can you see or relate to someone or something differently?
When you practise this and allow it to become part of your automatic response system you will be rewiring yourself to blast the tunnel and dispense with the debilitating illusion of tunnel vision and catapult yourself into the veritable cornucopia of options available beyond any tunnel or snapshot for positive empowering living no matter your circumstances

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Les Brown
Avoid head trash. Do not be a garbage can for anything that does not feed your intellect, stimulate your imagination, or make you a more compassionate peacefulperson. Refuse to open your mind to other people's trash. Tune out anything that promotes conflict. This can infect you with a mind virus of cynicism or defeat and you will not even know it!
Be deliberate about setting up your day to win. Whatever you feed your mind in the first 30 minutes of the day, will impact the spirit of your day. Saturate yourself with positive words that fuel your energy and ignite your spirit. Your thoughts create your reality.

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You are always a lot more than the snapshot of today

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When the going is good the good get grateful and the grateful show greatness

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So True...if we only started to appreciate how uniquely awesome Hashem created each and every one of us....we would not excuse ourselves from life, we would not resign ourselves to mediocrity nor would we treat our lives casually as we would never want to tolerate being a casualty of life but rather striving to be the champion of our unique circumstances that Hashem created us to be at any given time.

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When it finally came to me that I am nothing I gained the clarity to see that I am one with everything..the everything and more that is Hashem...
As long as I recognize that I am a piece of the Master my unique life will always be a Masterpiece